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After disabling my Mods folder for testing, I was reminded how EA replaced gendered relationship labels with neutral ones like “Romantic Partner.” While there are mods that revert this change, none that I know of allow gendered and gender-neutral labels to coexist.

This mod allows both to coexist, with per-Sim preferences.

How It Works

Each Sim now has a personal language preference for romantic relationships, either Gendered or Neutral.

Preferences are assigned automatically when a Sim ages into Teen or older
Sims default to gendered language (Boyfriend, Girlfriend, Husband, Wife, etc.)
Sims who identify as non-binary, agender, or genderfluid via Lumpinou's LGBTQIA+ mod, Sims that are Robots, and Sims with certain custom gender options default to neutral language.
Preferences can be changed at any time via new shift + click interactions:
- Refer to Using Gendered Terms
- Refer to Using Neutral Terms

Relationship Labels

Boyfriend / Girlfriend or Partner
Fiancé / Fiancée or Engaged
Husband / Wife or Spouse
Ex-Fiancé / Ex-Fiancée or Broken Engagement
Ex-Husband / Ex-Wife or Ex-Spouse
Late Husband / Late Wife or Late Spouse

Preferences are per-Sim and fully independent, so mixed-label couples are fully supported. If Sim A prefers gendered terms and Sim B prefers neutral terms, Sim B will see Sim A as their Boyfriend or Girlfriend, while Sim A will see Sim B as their Partner.

📝 Note: On first install, the relationship panel may not update immediately. Invite the Sim’s partner to the lot once to refresh it. After that, labels will display normally.

Where Labels Appear

Labels are updated in:

Sim Profile panel
Notifications
Pie menu
NPC autonomy dialogs

Romantic relationship names in the Family Tree and the CAS Household Relationships panel remain gender neutral.

📝 Note: The mod can be safely removed at any time and the original labels will be restored without issue.

Additional Improvements

Corrected relationship label priority so meaningful labels like “Husband” are no longer buried behind things like “Social Bunny Friends”
Added same-sex specific phrasing where appropriate. For example, instead of “Jenny is asking Adam to be her Boyfriend!”, a same-sex couple will see “Jack is asking Adam to be Boyfriends!”
Created new moodlets to support the different label variants
Fixed several issues in EA’s “Ask to Be Romantic Partner” interactions, including incorrect display name logic and a broken rejected moodlet

Compatibility

⚠️ This mod will conflict with any mod that overrides the following files:

buff_Woohoo_PleasantlySatisfied_Teen
loot_Buff_Woohoo_PleasantlySatisfied
lootActions_NPCRelationshipAutonomy_AskToBe_BoyfriendGirlfriend_No
mixer_social_AskToBeBoyfriend_targeted_romance_relationship
mixer_social_AskToBeBoyfriend_targeted_romance_relationship_RoommateNPC
mixer_social_AskToBeGirlfriend_targeted_romance_relationship
mixer_social_AskToBeGirlfriend_targeted_romance_relationship_RoommateNPC
romantic_Target_IsLateSpouseOf_Actor
romantic-Broken_Up_Engaged
romantic-Divorced
romantic-Engaged
romantic-Married
romantic-Significant_Other
socialSuper_NPCRelationshipAutonomy_AskToBe_BoyfriendGirlfriend

This mod was made possible by Sims 4 Studio, Tuning Builder, and STBL Studio.

Improved Relationship Labels